THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-WORTH!
- Mengisteab Eyehalik, LCSW, LMHC
- Jan 27, 2023
- 3 min read
Updated: Jan 28, 2023
"Your worth is not determined by others, it is determined by the value you place on yourself."

Self-worth is a concept that is often talked about but not always fully understood. Simply put, self-worth is the value or belief that you hold about yourself. It is the way that you see yourself, and it is a critical aspect of our mental and emotional well-being.
Self-worth is important because it affects almost every aspect of our lives. It influences our relationships, our career choices, and our overall sense of happiness and fulfillment. When our self-worth is low, we are more likely to struggle with self-doubt, negative thoughts, and feelings of inadequacy. On the other hand, when our self-worth is high, we are more likely to be confident, optimistic, and in control of our lives.
There are many factors that can influence our self-worth, such as past experiences, societal pressures, and our own self-talk. It is important to understand these factors and how they affect our self-worth so that we can work on improving it.
One of the best ways to improve self-worth is by identifying and challenging negative thoughts and beliefs. Many of us have a tendency to focus on our shortcomings and flaws, and also to take negative evaluations and feedback from others as a measure of our worth, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-worth. By identifying these negative thoughts and beliefs, we can learn to challenge them, question the validity and source of them, and reframe them in a more positive light.
Another important aspect of improving self-worth is to build and maintain positive self-worth. This can be done by setting and achieving personal goals that align with our values, practicing self-care activities that nourish our mind, body, and spirit, and being kind and compassionate towards ourselves. We should also learn to accept and celebrate our achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Additionally, it is important to surround ourselves with positive and supportive people who encourage and believe in us, rather than those who bring us down or put us down. Surrounding ourselves with people who lift us up, can help us to see ourselves in a more positive light and to believe in our own abilities.
In addition, it is important to note that self-worth is the value we give to ourselves as a person independent of what we achieve or do.
In conclusion, improving self-worth is a journey that requires effort, patience and self-compassion. By understanding the concept of self-worth and its importance in our daily lives, identifying and challenging negative thoughts and beliefs, and building and maintaining positive self-worth, we can learn to value and believe in ourselves. Remember that self-worth is not something that can be given to us by others, it is something that we must give to ourselves. It is important to be gentle and kind to ourselves, as we work towards improving our self-worth. Remember, it's not about being perfect, it's about being the best version of ourselves, and valuing ourselves for who we are.
Evaluate Your Self-Worth: A 10-Point Scale for Self-Assessment
0 - I feel worthless and inadequate.
1 - I have very low self-worth.
2 - I have low self-worth and struggle with negative thoughts and emotions.
3 - I have some self-worth, but it is often overshadowed by self-doubt and insecurity.
4 - My self-worth is inconsistent and fluctuates based on external validation.
5 - My self-worth is average, but I often doubt my abilities and potential.
6 - I have a fair amount of self-worth, but it can be easily affected by negative experiences or feedback.
7 - My self-worth is above average, but I still have moments of self-doubt and insecurity.
8 - I have a strong sense of self-worth and am able to handle challenges and setbacks with resilience.
9 - My self-worth is very high and is based on an internal belief in my own value and worth.
10 - I have an unwavering sense of self-worth and self-respect.
It is worth noting that self-worth can vary over time and can be affected by a variety of factors. This scale is intended to be a general guide to help identify levels of self-worth, but it is not a substitute for professional evaluation or therapy.
We hope you found this article helpful and informative. Remember to be compassionate with yourself, don't hesitate to reach out for help if you need it, and keep working on improving your self-worth!
By Mengisteab Eyehalik, LCSW, LMHC, Mental Health Counselor & Life Coach
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